Freedom Through the Path of Uncertainty

For people living with OCD, daily life can be filled with anxiety, guilt, and an endless inner dialogue that almost always begins with the phrase: “What if…?”
“What if I touched something contaminated? What if something bad happens because I didn’t recheck? What if I don’t prevent the worst from happening?”

The search for certainty feels absolutely necessary. The fear of something “bad” happening — combined with an inflated sense of responsibility — drives the person to engage in rituals or checks to feel temporarily safe. Yet the more one gives in to compulsions, the stronger the need becomes to repeat them again and again.

Therapy, and more specifically Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), helps break this cycle. Gradually, individuals learn to resist responding to compulsions and to tolerate anxiety and uncertainty.

As Heraclitus wisely said: “Everything flows.”
Nothing stays the same, nothing is absolutely stable.
Like a river, whose water never stands still.

Accepting uncertainty is perhaps the most realistic and ultimately the most liberating approach to life. No one, whether living with OCD or not, can ever have absolute certainty about what the next moment will bring.

No matter how much we try to stay in control, the truth is that we never fully are.
We are therefore called to come to terms with this, even if at times we feel the need for something stable, something certain.

If you are struggling right now…

Whether you are the one living with OCD, or you are a parent, partner, friend, sister, or brother of someone who is struggling, remember this:

You are not alone.
You are not broken.
It is not your fault.

OCD may shout inside you. It may exhaust you. It may fill you with fears and doubts. It may make you feel defeated.
But there is a way to respond to it, to understand it and, little by little, reclaim the space it has taken from you.

If there is one thing to take away from this text, let it be this: get informed, seek the right help, and above all, keep hoping.

One last thing: You are so much more than OCD.
Even if it has made you forget, do not doubt it.
OCD and don’t doubt. I’m well aware of the paradox…